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I think one thing you can do to help your friends who are depressed is to reach out to them not in the spirit of helping, but in the spirit of liking them and wanting their company. “I’m here to help if you ever need me” is good to know, but hard to act on, especially when you’re in a dark place. Specific, ongoing, pleasure-based invitations are much easier to absorb. “I’m here. Let’s go to the movies. Or stay in and order takeout and watch some dumb TV.” “I’m having a party, it would be really great if you could come for a little while.” Ask them for help with things you know they are good at and like doing, so there is reciprocity and a way for them to contribute. “Will you come over Sunday and help me clear my closet of unfashionable and unflattering items? I trust your eye.” “Will you read this story I wrote and help me fix the dialogue?” “Want to make dinner together? You chop, I’ll assemble.” “I am going glasses shopping and I need another set of eyes.” Remind yourself why you like this person, and in the process, remind them that they are likable and worth your time and interest.

Talk to the parts of the person that aren’t being eaten by the depression. Make it as easy as possible to make and keep plans, if you have the emotional resources to be the initiator and to meet your friends a little more than halfway. If the person turns down a bunch of invitations in a row because (presumably) they don’t have the energy to be social, respect their autonomy by giving it a month or two and then try again. Keep the invitations simple; “Any chance we could have breakfast Saturday?” > “ARE YOU AVOIDING ME BECAUSE YOU’RE DEPRESSED OR BECAUSE YOU HATE ME I AM ONLY TRYING TO HELP YOU.” “I miss you and I want to see you” > “I’m worried about you.” A depressed person is going to have a shame spiral about how their shame is making them avoid you and how that’s giving them more shame, which is making them avoid you no matter what you do. No need for you to call attention to it. Just keep asking. “I want to see you” “Let’s do this thing.” “If you are feeling low, I understand, and I don’t want to impose on you, but I miss your face. Please come have coffee with me.” “Apology accepted. ApologIES accepted. So. Gelato and Outlander?”
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#613: How do I reach out to my friends who have depression? | Captain Awkward

P.S. A lot of people with depression and other mental illnesses have trouble making decisions or choosing from a bunch of different options. “Wanna get dinner at that pizza place on Tuesday night?” is a LOT easier to answer than “So wanna hang out sometime? What do you want to do?”

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Video 11 Sep 69,527 notes

soneforscones:

alexandraerin:

acidarmor:

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whelp.

I have more respect for Russell Brand right now than I ever imagined possible. He clearly thought saying this was more important than getting more cushy corporate gigs.

as the years go by, Russell Brand just says truer and truer shit and I’m just like “the holy spirit ain’t got a pen!” forever. Like props to you. You can never say he doesn’t do his research.

I’ve never particularly liked Russell Brand’s comedy, but I definitely respect his balls and his principles. [At least the ones I’ve observed.]

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Text 11 Sep 3 notes

mrsvc:

Slash and Femslash - TeenWolfFWContest

So, apparently, our fic “Into Me (See?)” was nominated for Best Fan Fiction in the “Slash and Femslash” category, so, uh, if we’re your favorite among the five options, votes would be appreciated. Thanks! 

Uhhhh. What?

WHEN DID THIS HAPPEN? *HOW* DID THIS HAPPEN? 

I’m really flattered and going to blame all of the awesome on Jak. 

GO VOTE FOR JAK. [hides in a corner]

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Text 28 Jun 24 notes mother said don’t run away

muirmarie:

[2.5k original fic

tw: institutionalized sexism and the realities and situations thereof]

mother said don’t run away; a love story about dismantling the patriarchy, in seven parts

 

i.

She is three before she turns four.

She is optimistic before she turns cynical.

She is twenty years old, and her college science professor has failed to mention even one female scientist’s name the entire semester.  Two weeks before finals, she stays up all night researching.  She comes to class wired on too much caffeine, irritation pushed aside too long until now it’s ready to blow.  Jocelyn Bell Burnell, Lise Meitner, Chien-Shiung Wu, she says, names rolling off of her tongue.  Her hands are full of pages she printed out at the library while she paced the worn-out carpet, her music blaring in her headphones.  She feels ready for a fight; she feels ready for a marathon.  Her professor cuts her off, his soothing, even-toned words rising over hers until they drown her out.  She could raise her voice.  She could yell over him.  She doesn’t.  

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Video 25 Jun 71 notes

This commercial is how I feel about writing. 

WHAT JAK SAID

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Photo 27 May 780,769 notes fyeahsirvlad:

thelightofdeadstars:

goodnightvenom:

shallowjokesandbrokenthoughts:


The educational system in one image.

Ahh this is clever.
“Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish on its ability to climb a tree, it will spend the rest of its life thinking it’s an idiot.” -Albert Einstein

Perfect timing. THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT I’M TALKING ABOUT.

Yes ohmigod

Admin: Kinda off-topic, but I think this is something that many of us need to see right now.

fyeahsirvlad:

thelightofdeadstars:

goodnightvenom:

shallowjokesandbrokenthoughts:

The educational system in one image.

Ahh this is clever.

“Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish on its ability to climb a tree, it will spend the rest of its life thinking it’s an idiot.” -Albert Einstein

Perfect timing. THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT I’M TALKING ABOUT.

Yes ohmigod

Admin: Kinda off-topic, but I think this is something that many of us need to see right now.

Text 27 May 26 notes

combefierce:

courfeykitten:

If I had my way with Nu!Trek then I would have Kirk and Bones becoming boyfriends at the academy, growing and learning and boyfriending. 

And then they met Spock and look at each other and Kirk says “We’re gonna hit that.” and Bones nods, “You bet my sweet ass we’re gonna hit that.” 

Sandra should direct all Star Trek things.

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damalur:

Stop it. Stop trying to legitimize and monetize fanfiction. Fanfiction does not need mainstream approval, corporate approval, Hollywood approval, parental approval, or creator approval. Henry Jenkins said it best: “Fanfiction is a way of the culture repairing the damage done in a system where contemporary myths are owned by corporations instead of owned by the folk.”

As always, Em says it better than I could. So…. ^THIS^

Video 22 May 701,782 notes

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this picture should have more then the amounts of notes it has, this shows us that not ever thing is “picture perfect” and that behind that smile and those eyes there is fear . So i beg you to please reblog this instead of a pair of shoes, someone smoking a blunt, and clothes … because this picture is literally worth 1,000 words 

This is insanely powerful.

lizywkim:

wow, please reblog this.

Oh Lord, the amount of power in this picture

When I scrolled down and saw the second picture I felt my stomach actually drop.

I  had to take a deep breath…this hit really close to home. 

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Link 22 May 665 notes Participants Wanted: Asexual Terminology Survey»

tchy:

avenpt:

My name is Andrew Hinderliter, and I am a Ph.D. candidate in the Department of Linguistics at the University of Illinois-Urbana Champaign.  My dissertation is about online asexual discourse, with particular interest in its development over time.  I ran one survey last January, and I am now conducting a survey on asexuality-related concepts and terminology.

To participate, you must be at least 18 years of age or older, be proficient in English, and identify as asexual, gray-A, or demisexual.  The  survey has a number of language-related questions, and it is asked that you do not look things up while taking the survey.

Click here to participate.

Signal boost for my ace followers!

Text 21 May 99,484 notes

lesrevesdangereuses:

jeanvaljeanralphio:

The next time you feel down, just remember that Bruce Banner tried to kill himself and Tony Stark has anxiety attacks, and they’ve both saved the world. You will be okay.

This is actually the best post I have ever seen on Tumblr.  Thank you so much.

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Video 19 May 12,520 notes

mistermiraclesmagnificentmarvels:

princepup:

mausspace:

Leighton Naylor’s fish, Einstein, developed a disease that made it hard for him to swim. So Naylor made him a lifejacket of sorts using repurposed tank tubing, redesigned his tank to make it disability friendly, and nowadays Einstein does just fine.

“People have said I’m crazy but every animal is a valued family member,” Naylor says. “I’ve tried to train all of my fish but Einstein’s my star pupil. He can swim through my fingers and he was getting into fish football when he fell sick.”

I’m literally crying over this fish

BABYYYYYYYYYYYYY

Huh, isn’t that something?

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Text 19 May

enzetto said: ... Just... HOW DID YOU KNOW?! /wails

Um… magic? Destroying people’s lives is basically my life’s work? [It’s why I made the fic war post in the first place.] Also, I’m really good at stalking people’s blogs to figure out prompts?

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Text 19 May 311,905 notes

bedquest:

dear fucking tumblr

this is a fucking bumblebee

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this is a fucking bee

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this is a fucking hornet

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this is a fucking wasp

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as you can fucking see the longer their legs are and the less fuzzy they are is equivalent to how fucking evil they fucking are

THIS IS A FUCKING JAPANESE GIANT HORNET

BECAUSE CLEARLY THIS POST WASN’T TERRIFYING ENOUGH


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